THE RESET BUTTON || The idea that keeps coming up

I feel stuck, and I’m writing this down to understand why.

Usually, when I have an idea I want to write about, I sit with myself and think or do a bit of research on the main points I want to address then I start writing accordingly. But today, I’m not. 

To be honest, I did write down some ideas, and I have the main goal of this post in mind. But I’ll start by just emptying my mind first, and we’ll see where it goes.

I listened to a Jay Shetty podcast while driving—which is something I haven’t done in a long time (listening to podcasts—or Jay Shetty, specifically). He asked us to write down why we’re stuck, or why we think we’re stuck. So, I opened the voice memo app and rambled for almost half an hour.

Here are the main points I found myself hovering around:

1. I was doing things for a very long time and defined my success by them. So now that I’ve stopped, I don’t feel worthy anymore.
2. I’ve had almost the same schedule since 2021. I’m four years older now, and I still want to do the same things. It was the right thing to do four years ago, but I’m pretty sure it’s not anymore.
3. I despise change so much that I feel like I fight it with every bone in my body. When I look at my life before, and now, and see how much it has changed, I panic. So I simply run away and try not to accept it.
4. I stopped the main habits I’d been doing forever — it’s been a year now (hence the sudden stop in posting). Ever since, every month or so, I force myself to start again, but I don’t even last a week. I always find a reason to stop, then feel guilty for about a week, and start over again.

Yup, that’s all.

Now that I know why, I’m going to think about what I need to do to fix it.

Recently, every piece of content I’ve come across has repeated the same idea: we’re stuck because we want everything to be perfect and done “right.” We stay in the same place for the longest time and don’t move forward—just because we want it to be perfect.

But real learning happens when we experience the real world—when we face difficulties and learn how to overcome them in the moment. In a way, the learning should happen after we start, not before.

We’re not in school anymore, where we learn first and then take the test. Now, we take the test first—and learn one question at a time.

That repeated message is what pushed me to write this article—so the learning can begin, and I can figure out what my next step should be. Sure, we do need to learn something before we start—like reading up on the subject you’re studying—but don’t let that stop you from taking the exam.

What should I do now?

• First, I’ll write down all the things I used to do and assess whether they still serve my current goals and situation.
• Then, I’ll decide what I’m going to commit to for a week—and check in with myself afterward to see if it was the right decision.
• Finally, I’ll identify anything I might be missing that could help my bigger goal, and slowly implement it into my routine.

Hopefully, this will break the never-ending loop of guilt and constantly feeling stuck...

I used to enjoy writing, reading, YouTube, and watching movies. But ever since I started associating them with goals and numbers, I lost that enjoyment—and honestly, that’s sad... So, starting now, I’m just going to write my next post whenever I feel like and whenever I’m proud of myself again, so see you then.

And MY TAKE this time is simple, like what Nike’s slogan says:

Just do it.

And THANKS.

Resources :

Give Me 27 Minutes and I’ll End Your Perfectionism for Good

The Consumption Trap - How to Finally Lock In

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