Where Should I Be?

 It is the question I find myself asking most of the time. I know my goals, and I know that I am doing the best I can to reach them, but what if I should do more? What if I am falling behind? I keep reading all of these success stories of people who got there from a very young age, and I keep wondering what I am doing wrong. I should be where they are. I followed all the steps, so why?
All of these questions are the background noise in my mind, and I always find myself struggling with them. 
Today is my birthday, another yearly brutal reminder of how behind I am, but not this year. I recently listened to an amazing book called “The Compound Effect” written by this successful millionaire entrepreneur who is very successful in every measure I have and who had his first company since he was 18! and how he got to where he is and how he is still growing. The simple idea of the book is a notion that I believed in for so long: small, consistent actions can lead to significant results over time. I was so pleased at first that he got where he is in life with the same habits and actions I try to maintain in my life. But then, I am in my early twenties; he had done it way before me, so I must be doing something wrong. Or am I looking at it in the wrong way? 
Depressed I become, helpless and devastated instead of the exact opposite. Until it hit me. I am comparing one aspect of life and neglecting the other. Circumstances differ from one person to another, and the journey of life or to specific goals can take various turns and paths. It does not matter how hard you try to compare yourself with others, and it does not matter how similar the path you started from is; you are never the same. As long as we control the things we actually have control over and steer ourselves in the right direction, then we will get there when we get there. It is our journey and nobody else’s. This birthday is different. For the first time, I am happy where I am, even if it is not what I imagined myself doing or, to be exact, even if others got to where I want to be before my age. It is NOT about the number; it is about the experience and the direction you are heading towards.
AND Thanks. 

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